LoveWork by Olajumoke Adetunji

LoveWork is a reflective writing exercise designed for the students in our coaching programs at Loveology University. It offers a chance for them to dive deeper into their personal growth journeys, explore thoughts on love and relationships, and apply the principles they’re learning. Each LoveWork entry encourages our students to express themselves and gain insights, guiding them toward a more fulfilling, loving life.

Below is a LoveWork submission from Bianca Baymon, a Love Coaching Graduate

Write a personal response on how you believe COVID-19 has impacted Flirting and Dating.

Covid-19 has promoted a more virtual environment and brought more awareness to online dating. With that, dating expectations has changed. There is more pressure on stimulating each other intellectually and being engaged. Prior to by Covid-19, the pressure of constantly talking was reduced by spending time in the movies, eating or other activities. But Covid-19 has forced dating and flirting to be more l . On a positive note, you spend time communicating, getting to know each other's strengths, opportunities, biases and blind spots.
Due to the virtual nature of dating and flirting now, there is increased long distance relationship, sexting, erotic talk and catering to each other’s emotional and mental needs than the physical.

Write a dialog about Sexual Harassment with your responses to deflect the harasser.

John walks over to Jane’s desk and begins massaging her shoulder.

John: You are so tense, if you were my girl, I would give you a massage every single day. Why won’t you just say yes to me.

Jane stands up and politely says.

Jane: Please take your hands off me. This is part of the reason I won’t date you because you do not understand or respect my boundaries. I appreciate a man that is respectful of a woman’s boundaries and makes her feel respected and safe.

The next time you touch me without my verbal consent, you will give me no choice but to report you. Have a good day.

Write an Aphrodisiac Menu with a variety of appetizers, main courses and desserts

Appetizers:
Oysters (with tomatoes, grated ginger, cucumber)
Crab cake (with Sage and pineapple)
Garlic sautéed shrimp with apple slices.

Main Course:
Lamb, mashed potato with mixed vegetables
(zucchini, squash, bell pepper, carrot and celery)
Duck, sweet potato, with saffron, ginger, and basil sauce
Mushroom with Garlic roasted asparagus
Salad (Arugula, avocado, cucumber, strawberry, grated gouda cheese)
Salad dressing (lemon juice, basil, cayenne pepper, extra virgin olive oil)

Dessert
Chocolate soufflé
Ginger Ginseng spritz
Raspberry roasted figs
Chocolate Avocado pudding

Write a research study on the latest statistics on Consent and Safer Sex.

According to CDC databrief, "By age 15, 21% of young females aged 15–24 had ever had sexual intercourse. By age 17, this increased to 53% of young females, and by age 20, 79% of young females had ever had sexual intercourse. By age 15, 20% of young males aged 15–24 had ever had sexual intercourse. By age 17, this increased to 48% of young male, and by age 20, 77% of young males had ever had sexual intercourse."(www.cdc.gov, 2020)

There is a huge spike from ages 15 to 17. Which begs the question, have they received consent and safe sex education? How safe are they? Well, According to the same CDC databrief,"A higher percentage of young females who had first sexual intercourse at ages 15–16 (79%) and 17–19 (83%) used a method of contraception at first sexual intercourse compared with those who were 14 and under at first sexual intercourse (57%).

A higher percentage of young males who had first sexual intercourse at ages 15–16 (93%) and 17–19 (91%) used a method of contraception at first sexual intercourse compared with those who were 14 and under at first sexual intercourse (78%).

Write a list of Adult Toys you would recommend for all genders and sexualities.

Vibrators, We Vibe, G-Toys, Magic Wand, Cock Ring, Rose Clit Sucker.

Write down your definition of Sex Positivity.

Sex Positivity is the ability to freely express, explore and embrace your sexuality without judgment or shame.

Write a Healing Meditation or Affirmation.

In a quiet space, take in deep breaths. Take some minutes to thing about where you are in your healing journey. Acknowledge it. Then take another deep breath, this time holding it for 5 secs and gently breathing out through your mouth. Then say these words of affirmation to yourself. You can also put your hands on your chest as you speak.

I am strong, I am loved, I am more than my thoughts, my present and my struggles. I am open to all forms of healing. So I choose to forgive myself and extend a hand of grace and forgiveness to others. I deserve to feel safe, I deserve to be loved, I deserve to be respected and appreciated. So today I will breathe the air of peace, joy, healing and laughter. And continue progressively on my journey towards healing. Healing from loss, healing from pain, healing of my body, soul and spirit.

Write down some examples of Cultural Competence.

• Acknowledging cultural differences
• Viewing behaviors in cultural context
• Creating an open and inclusive environment that supports the needs of diverse ideas, personalities and populations.
• Write down how you would coach an LGBTQ client coming out.
• First is taking the time to understand their journey and the turning point that is driving the client coming out. At this moment, I need to listen and affirm where my client is currently in their journey. I will also create an environment where my client feels safe about admitting their worries or conviction about this next step.
• At the end of the day, I am a coach and would educate my client on some of the challenges they may face, loving oneself, relating to others, practicing safe sex , living a healthy lifestyle and making sure of their convictions.
• There is a high chance of referral to a therapist because of the complexity and therapeutic capabilities that are needed prior to taking the step of coming out.

Write an outline for a seminar and make a video of yourself giving a TED type of talk.

Title: "The Crucial Conversation: Understanding Sexual Consent

I. Introduction
Opening story to engage the audience
Define the importance of discussing sexual consent

II. What is Sexual Consent?
Clear definition of sexual consent
The importance of enthusiastic and ongoing consent
Misconceptions and myths about consent

III. Importance of Communication
Discussing situations where consent may be unclear
The role of communication in navigating consent

IV. Consent in Different Contexts
Consent in intimate relationships
Consent in casual encounters and hook-up culture
Consent in online interactions and sexting

V. Power Dynamics and Perception of Consent
Addressing power imbalances and coercion
The impact of alcohol and drugs on consent
Consent and affirmative action

VI. Legal Aspects of Consent
The consequences of ignoring consent
The role of consent in legal cases

VII. Consent Culture
Promoting a culture of consent
Encouraging personal accountability
How individuals and communities can contribute
The importance of bystander intervention

X. Conclusion
A. Recap of key points
B. Call to action for the audience
C. Ending with a powerful message on the significance of consent in building healthy relationships and a safer society