All About Anal Play

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Welcome to Loveology University’s sneak preview video course on Anal Play.  This in-depth course will teach you everything you want to learn about anal play, anal pleasure, anal do’s and don’ts,  as well as prostate massage, anal toys and anal taboos!

Anal Pleasure

Anal Pleasure triggers immediate butt clenching response in vanilla America.  The thought or visual image of rectal penetration is mortifying, gay, taboo, painful, wrong, unnatural, sinful, and unclean to some. Myths about “trunk butt” deter the curious, and laws about sodomy impede the tempted.

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Anuses are the ultimate neutralizer. The anatomical make-up of an anus is much more similar in men, women, trans, gays, lesbians and bisexuals than their primary and secondary sex organs. The anus does not have a designation, gender or sexual preference.

It just is.

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Anal intercourse is not only in the form of “sex.”  Penetration of the anus is only one way to please the anus.

It is also possible to acquire anal pleasure through:

• Spanking
• Cleansing
• Massaging
• Anilingus
• Toys
• Fingering
• Fisting
• Let’s work up to Intercourse!

Taboos About Anal Sex

So why these taboos? Why the blocks to an expansion of our pleasure repertoires?

• In the past, anal sex was illegal because it was considered an act of sodomy.
• People associate anal pleasure with feces. Therefore, being dirty, smelly, unclean and unhealthy.
• Due to the negative connotation of anal sex, many people consider this a sexual taboo.
• Many people believe that anal sex is intended only for homosexual couples.
• Some people think it it is an exit only, no entrance allowed.

In Reality…

• Anal sex can stimulate both the male and female G-Spot, thus giving your partner an incredibly deep and satisfying orgasm.
• Approximately 40% of heterosexual couples have tried anal sex at least once.
• Some people love it, even preferring anal sex over vaginal intercourse.

Why Explore Anal Sex or Anal Pleasure?

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It feels good!  Anal orgasms anyone?

Anal sex can stimulate both the male and female G-Spot, thus giving your partner an incredibly deep and satisfying orgasm.

The anus, like the vagina, has sensitive nerve endings that feel very pleasurable when stimulated.

The prostate gland is a firm, round organ located directly below the bladder. When massaged, the prostate can arouse the man to new levels of intimate pleasure since the anus is surrounded with sensitive nerve endings.

More reasons:

• “I can’t get pregnant.”
• “It’s an alternative when I have my period.”
• “Vaginal sex is painful.”
• “I like double penetration.”
• “It makes my orgasms 100 times better.”
• “I like my partner penetrating me.”
• “It stimulates my prostate.”
• “It gives me a unique orgasm.”
• “It is something special I can share.”
• “It is deeper than my mouth or vagina.”
• “I like the variety.”
• “My ass needs love too.”
• “It feels natural.”
• “I tried it and liked it.”
• “It is tighter.”

Is Wanting to Have Anal Sex Normal?

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Anal sex is the new “normal” and at least 40-45% of the population is doing it.

The 2002 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) conducted study on over 12,000 men and women aged 15 to 44 reported: 34% of men and 30% of women engaged in anal sex at least once.

Some recent studies from 2010 suggest that up to 45.6% of adults 25-29 (regardless of gender) may have received a penis in the anus at least once in their lifetime.

SOURCES: http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexinformation/a/anal_sex_stats.htm & http://www.nationalsexstudy.indiana.edu/

That doesn’t mean that you should do it if you really don’t want to.  But, you can give yourself permission to try it if you want to.

How to Talk to Your Partner About Anal Sex

Communication is key before anal sex.  Make sure your partner is comfortable with the idea.  If your partner is not ready for anal sex, respect their wishes and take the opportunity to discuss other sexual boundaries.  Alternatively, if you are interested in trying anal sex, but afraid of the consequences, take the opportunity to share your fears.

If the answer is a definitive NO, acknowledge and accept it!

About Consent

Consent is an agreement between partners that includes the following elements:

• Clear and informed communications of intent
• Given voluntarily by equal partners
• Can be modified or withdrawn at any time
• Neither person’s judgment is impaired by alcohol or drugs

“Without Consent” means:

• the victim is compelled to submit by force or threat of force against the victim or another;
• or the victim is incapable of consent because the victim is:
• Mentally disabled or incapacitated (can include drugs and/or alcohol)
• Physically helpless
• Overcome by deception, coercion, or surprise
• Less than 16 years old

Proceed with Caution

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Anal sex should be handled delicately.  Be careful not to penetrate as energetically as with vaginal lovemaking.  The tissues of the anus are fragile, so anal sex requires mutual trust, gentleness, slowness, lots of lubrication, and patience.

It’s important to know that anal sex puts lovers at a high risk for HIV infection and other sexually transmitted diseases. Therefore, it is recommended that you use an FDA-approved condom.

Also, be sure to use a separate condom for vaginal intercourse to protect against the spread of bacteria to the vagina. Never insert anything— finger, penis or toy—directly into the vagina from the anus without first thoroughly cleansing it.

The Rules for Anal Sex

• Everyone gets tested
• Go without state-altering substances
• Stay away from numbing agents
• Pick smooth for your condoms
• Wear them
• Keep things slow on the ins and outs
• Listen
• Breathe

Today’s sneak peek video is all about Anal Sex, a comprehensive digital course that will teach you everything you need to know about anal pleasure, available via our Certified Love Coach program!  

https://youtu.be/WWWaZ4h9ank

This exclusive course on Anal Sex (Back Door Play) includes a Narrated Multimedia Video Course, extra Video Training: Dr. Ava’s Guide to Anal Sex For Women, Zero Tolerance (1 hour, 42 minutes), Plus!, you will learn:

• Anal Pleasure
• Anal Talk
• For Women
• For Men
• Anal Taboo
• Research
• Anatomy
• Fissures
• Hemorrhoids
• Constipation
• Anal Care
• Communication
• Consent
• Pleasure vs. Pain
• Cleansing
• Anal Toys
• Irretrievables
• Varieties
• Butt Plugs
• Cones
• Dildos & Strap-Ons
• Anal Beads
• Prostate/ Perineum Massagers
• Aneros
• Anal Sex
• Anal Terms
• Responsibilities
• Anal Delight
• Positions
• Afterplay
• Preparation
• Safer Play
• Lubrication
• Precautions
• Foreplay
• Buttocks Massage
• Percussion
• Spanking Zones
• Analingus
• What is Analingus
• How to Rim
• Positions
• Digital Stimulation
• Fingering
• Fingering Massage
• Prostate Massage
• Fullness
• Fisting

This course is just a small component of our comprehensive Certified Love Coach program.

Take a look at our Certified Love Coach program NOW to see all of the courses available when you sign up to become a Certified Love Coach!